We have all
met that one guy who doesn’t know what he wants. One day he likes coffee, the
other he likes tea. He can’t decide between being single and in a relationship
and can’t make up his mind whether he likes you as a friend or romantically.
Well meet Mr. Emotionally Unavailable .He’s a great guy I
met through friends. Not my usual Strong Tall dark well-dressed and handsome
type, but a short and a bit on the heavy side all-around good guy. Most guys
catch my attention at a party or a bar, but my heart skipped a beat when he
passed me on the running track, wearing a t-shirt, sweatpants and sneakers. Ok
maybe I was tired and I had to catch my breath and that’s why I stopped and
noticed him. Sounds crazy I know, but I’ve seen him around before, but I never
paid much attention to him. We were introduced after the workout and we each
went our way. He was the first one to make contact. We started texting and he
was very nice and we met a few times. I’m not the most confident person, though
my friends will disagree, especially when it comes to expressing my feelings to
guys I like. Well it took me a while, but I finally did tell him. He was
surprised, he said he didn’t see it coming and the explained to me that he was
“emotionally unavailable”. Also he wouldn’t know what to tell his kids. He
didn’t want to compromise the already fragile relationship with his ex, by
bringing a new woman into their lives. What could I do? I mean we were friends,
I knew his situation, so I understood.
A few weeks later he calls me up to explain to me that he
met someone. They had a “connection” and his kids love her. O yes … I exploded.
All this time he wasn’t worried about his kids, he was worried about crowd control.
And
if telling me about it wasn’t bad enough, he wanted me to meet his new
girlfriend too. His excuse … “You are a dear friend and you are important to
me. I want her to meet the important people in my life.” Sure let her meet your
mother and why not throw in your ex too. I told him I didn’t have time for this
drama and forgot about it. Until a few weeks later on the running track that
is. I put my music on and started my warming up power walk when someone tapped
me on the shoulder. There Mr. unavailable was with his girlfriend. “Hi this is
(let’s call her) Jane. Jane this is Conny, one of my friends I wanted you to
meet.” And he ran off.
And then you expect me to stay calm and be nice righ …
